Thursday, April 29, 2010

Another "duh" tip from a "Duh"me!

Do you remember that scene from "Back to the Future" where Michael J Fox is leaving the school after his parents finally hook up on the dance floor in 1955? Loraine and George are arm & arm in the stairwell and Marty tells them that if one day, years down the road, they have a son who spills a can of paint on the rug, to go easy on him! Loraine and George must think he's a bit nuts to bring up such an unlikely scenario, but Marty knows better because he's seen the future and he knows that such an unlikely scenario WILL happen!

Well, it's not quite like that, but I'd like to pass along a tip for a scenario that you might find just as unlikely. Here goes...

If one day you have a friend who brings over a sushi dinner and you sit and chat and have a glass of wine (or just water because you're fighting off some sort of bug) and eat most of the sushi, but not all, and then it's time for your friend to go and so you decide to walk him out to the car and you've got a 16 month old toddler in your arms and the dog asks to go out too, but you think to yourself that that isn't a good idea because the dog isn't on a leash and it's dark and you don't want the dog to get run over... well, if that scenario ever happens to you, I recommend that you either take the 15 seconds to put a leash on the dog and take her out...

...or maybe put the leftover sushi away or in the kitchen...

...or at the very least, push in the dining room chairs before you step outside!!!

I know... unlikely scenario, but it COULD happen!

This helpful "duh" tip is brought to you by the Association of Dumb Dog Owners who Never Learn!

Lots of love,
Titi & her sushi loving pug

PS - I actually think that the warning that Marty gave his parents was about setting something on fire... the spilled can of paint on the rug was me (yep... a whole can). I wonder if my mom remembers that one.

PSS - The pug woke me up at 1am, puking in the bed. I guess Anne was right that she saved me from leftover sushi poisoning... thank you pug!!

More every day

Everyone's heard parents say that as impossible as it seems, every day they love their kids more. And believe me, I get where that sentimental, mooshy-gooshy stuff comes from. There are days that I feel that way. But I don't actually think it's true every day. When we start to get into a daily routine and the days slip by... or when your kid starts to show his cranky, obstinate, relentless side... or when you're just tired or sick... well I'm just saying that I don't think most people can really look at their kid every single morning and say, "Wow, I love you even more today than I did yesterday!"

For me, there are days that slip by and I don't think about it... there are days when I'm ready to head out of the house and leave a cranky Radar in someone else's capable hands... there are times when I'm just tired and want a break... and there are those "Wow" days. To be clear, there are never days when I don't love Radar more than all the stars and teacups in the universe. But to say that every day I love him more than the day before is too vague... too immeasurable... and I just don't think it's true.

Now, before you go declaring me an unloving, miserable mother, let me clarify what I do think is true - at least for me. It struck me today during our weekday morning routine. Every weekday we get up between 6 and 7 am. We talk a little, tickle a little, whine a little... then Maria shows up between 7 and 7:30 am, she dresses Radar and takes him to the park. I drink my coffee, hop onto the computer for a bit, talk to my mom and get ready for work. I leave for work at about 8:45am, but if Radar isn't home yet (and he's usually not), I swing by the park before I head off to work to say a quick goodbye.

That's what I did this morning. When I walked into the park, Radar was climbing up the slide. He saw me and a giant smile took over his whole face.

He couldn't get down fast enough.

He ran over to me for a hug, then got down to work.

He started pushing the lawn mower super fast and every couple of seconds he'd look up to get my reaction (which was obviously one of awe and loud exclamations of praise!)

Then he hopped on the bike...

then over to one of the little cars, slamming the door and jerking the steering wheel back and forth...

always glancing to me to make sure I was watching and reacting!

My little boy was showing off, BIG TIME!!!

He was showing off for ME, his mommy!

He was so proud and wanted his mommy's approval!

And my eyes filled with tears!

I was totally overcome with how much I love this little boy.
(check out the molars!)

And I definitely love him more today than I ever remember loving him before... more than yesterday or the day before or the day before...

So I think it's a cumulative thing. It doesn't happen every day, but as time goes by it builds up in ebbs and flows that follow a trend line that's always heading north.

I reached a new high today... which is good because we'll be boarding a plane for an 8+ hour flight one week from today... we'll be spending a few jet-lagged days in Spain before boarding another plane for a 9+ hour flight back.

I'm thinking that maybe those days will have their challenges... maybe those won't all be "Wow" days like today. But I'll have today's surge to get me through with a smile still on my face and the trend line will keep trending upwards... of that I have no doubt!

Lots of love... even more than yesterday,
Titi & Radar

PS- Incidentally, my love growth chart above charts love from day 1 to day 500 and as of this morning, Radar is 499 days old!!! That's a pretty cool age to be!

Wednesday, April 28, 2010


I don't believe in jinxes (gosh, I hope you didn't say that out loud together)!

But it seems that my esteemed cousin Rafa is a believer.

See, I recently put up a Homer Simpson countdown clock to tick off the time until my other esteemed cousin Antonio was out of Iraq and back on US soil.

It was supposed to be a done deal. May 1st was it.

Until I put up the counter.

Now it's April 28th and Antonio is still in Eerack!!!

His US-bound flight from Kuwait just took off and he's not on it!

He says it's got to do with bureaucracy.

Rafa says it's got to do with the jinx I put up with my countdown clock!

So, who's right?

And anyone want to take a guess at when Antonio's feet will actually be planted back on US soil?

To perhaps further jinx Antonio, I've put a poll up over on the sidebar so that you too can take part in the jinx... or maybe you'll bring him luck and bring him home sooner!!!

Let's see!

Lots of love,
Titi and Radar

Sunday, April 25, 2010

Every bit

Well, I got home at 9pm last night and Radar screamed with joy when he saw me!!!

So did I!!!

And he's every bit as gorgeous as when I saw him last on Thursday morning...

maybe even a touch gorgeouser!!!

9pm is usually bedtime for Radar, but he was too excited to sleep.

So was I!

To burn off some happy energy, he climbed.

And he's every bit as climby as when I last saw him...

maybe even a touch climbier...

... and resourcefuller...

...and confidenter...

...and did I mention climbier?

But mostly what I noticed is that Radar was really happy that I was home.

So was I!

And although he's generally a happy kid...

and although Maria said he was happy while I was away...

I think now that mommy's back home...

...I think he's even a touch happier!

Lots of love,
Titi and Radar

PS - Next adventure... Spain... 10 days!!!

Friday, April 23, 2010

Pros vs. Cons

I'm not saying that being here in Cayman is all bad.

Some of the pros are...

...that my room has a gigantic tub with super-turbo water pressure that makes for a killer bubble bath!

... and yes, it's an obstructed view, but a view of the ocean none the less.

...and this view...

...from the catamaran...

...that we set off on...

...for a sunset cruise...

...wasn't horrible...

But all these little pros are seriously outweighed by one big CON.

My missing monkey!

But I've only got this one last night to get through and tomorrow afternoon I'll be back on a flight... and tomorrow night when my head hits the pillow, my monkey is going to be right beside me!

Now that's a PRO worth a million sunset sails!!!

Lots of love,

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Going it alone

It's been a long time since my wait at the airport has looked like this.

One carry-on bag.

No checked luggage.

Unattended cup of hot coffee.

No child backpack.

One passport.

One boarding pass.

That's right... I headed off this morning, crying like an idiot.

I left Radar behind and for the first time in 25 months (9 of pregnancy and 16 on the outside),
I'm spending the night without my monkey.

I had a long layover in Miami, so Grammy came to pick me up and we headed to Lincoln road for lunch.

We even got to see Tio Dardo who didn't know we'd be dropping by...

...he did a double take and asked, "where the hell is Radar?" It seems that seeing me is "whatever," but he'd really rather see Radar.

So would I!

By the time I got to this empty room and this empty bed at my hotel in Grand Cayman, I tried calling Radar to wish him a good night over video conference.

But he was already asleep.

I'm glad to know he's not losing sleep over this separation.

But it's midnight for me.

And I'm not asleep.

I'm just sad.

Lots of love,
Titi... that's right... only Titi

Monday, April 19, 2010

I'm so mad, I could erupt!!!

Ok, that's just not true. I'm not mad at all. But I wanted to do a quick little post on that volcano in Iceland that has caused all sorts of problems with flights in Europe and that's the title that came to mind. Honestly - I'm not mad! I SAID I'M NOT MAD!!!!

Where was I? Right, that volcano. Our flight to Europe isn't for more than two weeks and flights into Spain seem to be some of the least disturbed, so I really don't think it's going to impact us directly. But I think volcanos are neat (as long as you're not under an erupting one or flying through the dense ash of one). I can't wait for Radar to be old enough for us to build our first baking soda volcano... you know the one where you add vinegar to baking soda water and it erupts! So cool!

So anyway, I was trying to think of what I could possibly blog about that has to do with Radar and the current volcano.

It was the Science Pundit who gave me the idea. I asked him if he had committed the name of the volcano to memory yet... he confessed that not only could he not pronounce the name, he also couldn't write it. In fact, he said, he didn't think he'd be able to pick out the correct name if it was next to a bunch of letters that Radar randomly typed on the keyboard.

So, ladies and gentlemen, I give you today's challenge... Below you will find four possible options... one is the actual name of the currently erupting Icelandic volcano that is causing untold havoc and the other three are Radar's entries. Will the real volcano please step forward?

1. Ghhkdghdsjhl
2. V Assx awwFG
3. Eyjafjallajökull
4. Kuybkxc$%xjn B

Lots of love,
Titi and Radar

PS - We had a surprise visit from Uncle Stefan and Louise last night. It seems that Radar's not the most personable host past 8pm. Sorry Stefan and Louise... I was happy to see you though (and obviously Fanny was thrilled!!!) Please don't let Radar's bad bedtime mood stop you from future surprise visits!

Sunday, April 18, 2010

Our next big adventure... not for an original Starbucks in Seattle (sorry Jenna - we'll get there sooner or later though)...

...and it's not to Likchtensteen (um... Tia Sara, can you spell check that for me?)...

...and Marco - do you guess China whenever anyone asks you anything?

All I can say is that by the time we get there, we'll be very prepared since Radar is busy online doing research about all the things we can do in...


Madrid to be specific... at least for the first couple of days and then we may hop on the fast train over to Barcelona since none of us have ever been there before. We're leaving for Philadelphia on May 5th and then for Madrid on May 6th, arriving on May 7th.

This time, if I don't take lots of pictures, I expect you all to fire me!!!

Lots of love,
Titi and Radar

My dog keeps getting fatter!

Fantango only eats one small meal a day.

And yet she keeps getting fatter.

On the weekends, I don't give her any meals.

And yet she keeps getting fatter!!!

Is it a "gland" problem?

Or perhaps just a "little man" problem?

Like when Radar gets all cute and asks Mommy for an animal cracker...

...and Mommy seems to always say yes...

...and then, invariably, this happens...

So we steer away from crackers, to good fruit...

... which Radar "accidentally" drops...
(see the "real" surprised look when he "accidentally" drops it?)

...and a certain someone is always around to "clean up"!

I won't even mention what a typical meal in the high chair looks like these days. On a very good day the distribution is about 33%/33%/33% (Radar, all over Radar and Floor). Considering that Fanny gets both what lands on the floor and then cleans Radar up afterwards, she's getting about 2/3's of all of his meals.

So what's one to do? This morning with the animal crackers, after Radar gave the first one to Fanny, I told him "NO!" and I held back more crackers. He pitched an unholy fit, so I thought maybe that meant that HE wanted a cracker. So I gave him another and he immediately turned and gave it to the dog. How am I supposed to win when they're teaming up against me?

Oh well...

Lots of love,
Titi, Radar and an ever-fatter pug

PS - I'll post the answer to the travel question before I hit the sack tonight!!!

Thursday, April 15, 2010

The Travel bug

I kind of wish I'd kept track of how many trips Radar has taken in his first 16 months, but I haven't. He's averaged more than one trip every other month though, so 10 is probably a very conservative guess... I think it's been more than that though.

If I had been an even bigger stickler for detail, I might have even kept track of how many airplane legs he's flown. But I'm not and I have haven't. Since a number of his trips (at least 10) have been multi-city or have had connecting flights, I'd say that it would be safe to estimate that on average we're looking at at least 3 legs per trip... but I think it's been more than that.

So very, very conservatively speaking, Radar has flown at least 30 legs. Not bad for a kid who's turning all of 16 months tomorrow. And even though I haven't formally kept track, it's a little easier to remember where he's been so far...

Bahamas (obviously)
Washington, DC
New Jersey
New York
Rhode Island
New Hampshire
West Virginia

Looking at that list, the 30 flights seems a little less impressive.

He's pretty much just flown back and forth from the Bahamas and has gone up and down the east coast of the US (with a bit of a jaunt westward to West Virginia).

That's kind of dull...

...for a kid who gets bored so easily!

So I guess it's about time to shake things up a bit and make this list a bit more exciting!!!

Anybody want to take a stab at where we're off to next that's turned a big old yawn into an outright snicker?

(No cheating for those of you who already know!)

Lots of love,
Titi and the traveling monkey