Thursday, February 3, 2011

I'm in love!

Yes. This is the post I mentioned. The one I really, really wanted to post and the one that couldn’t be rushed.

And Yes. You read the title right.

I’m in love.

I’m not talking about a tawdry affair or a passing infatuation either.

I’m talking about a head over heals, love at first sight, fairytale kind of love!

When did this happen, you ask?

Why, it happened yesterday.


So now you’re thinking that either I’m kidding or exaggerating or that perhaps it is indeed a simple infatuation or tawdry affair.

I assure you – it is not!

I’m in love.

But let me back up a bit and explain in a little more depth.

It’s true that just two days ago I didn’t know that my new love even existed in this world. And it’s also true that it only took seeing one picture of this person to send me into a deep plunge off the cliff of no return. But the roots of this newfound love run so much deeper and that’s how I know it’s not just some passing infatuation!

It has a lot to do with how I’ve come to appreciate what ‘family’ means to me. I’m a big fan of the ‘traditional’ family… you know, the mom and dad with 2.4 kids, living in a two story suburban home with a white picket fence (dog and cat included)! Big fan! But obviously, I’m also a HUGE fan of the ‘non-traditional’ family… of adoption… of same-sex couples… and of course, of single moms!

My own non-traditional family has its quirks and dysfunctions, but it is also so very rich and beautiful. Tia Lali is a good example… she is my half-sister… she is 16 years my junior… she grew up with a different mother, in different cities and in a different time. None of that matters. She is every bit my sister, she is one of my very best friends and I love her through and through.

Then there’s Radar – obviously the very best example of what I’m talking about. I’m not married to his biological father – I don’t even know who he is! I chose half of Radar’s biology based on words I read on a screen, one audio interview I listened to and one (sort of fuzzy) picture of a little boy. That changes nothing! This gift that was made possible because a stranger decided to walk into a cryobank, is the most precious, beautiful and valuable gift of my life. Radar is my everything. I know that I’d love my son every bit as much if my circumstances had been more ‘traditional’… but the point is that I don’t love him one single atom less because they’re not.

But back to my point.

I’m in love!

And it has everything to do with my view that family can come in all shapes and sizes!

That is why, a couple of days ago, I went to a website called DSR (“Donor Sibling Registry”) and did a quick search using the ID# of Radar’s bio-dad. That is why my heart jumped and fluttered when I saw the results of that search… “Girl born Nov2008”. That is why I was blushing as I read a message from this little girl’s parents that said they were looking to connect with donor siblings. That is why I wrote back immediately and started a dialogue with this family from Long Island, NY. And that is why, when I got these pictures yesterday morning…




Can you see the resemblance (that's obviously a rhetorical, 'duh' kind of question!)?


Titi & Radar


Kelley's Kids said...

OMG, how exciting! They look JUST ALIKE!
Congratulations! Kelley

Becky said...

Wow. Thats amazing. I got goosebumps, the resemblance is amazing, and you are an amazing mom.

Carolina said...

OMG soooo exciting!!!
incredible how much they look alike!

Lali said...

They are both so beautiful! I love Hannah too! A wonderful post. This is very exciting!

All my love,
Tia Lali

Abuela said...

This is our family's own "Oprah Moment". I am so excited.

Viviana said...

OMG I'm so excited with this news. I can't beleive Radar have a sister how cute is that. I have tear in my eyes. Congratulation Radar!!! We love you soooo much.

The Science Pundit said...

I love the picture of Hannah wearing the sunglasses! She's as beautiful as her brother.

Anonymous said...

Fascinating! Is there a limit on the amount of children a donor can have? In theory, how many more half siblings could Radar have? Will it be possible for him to meet his biological father in the future if he wishes or is that info stricly confidential?

Tia Sara said...

Tiene los ojos achinaditos igualitos a los de Radar! Que linda!
Tia Sara

H and M B said...

OMG!! When I saw Hannah my mouth literally dropped and my stomach started to turn flips, she really looks just like Radar. Its like twins so cool. Exciting.

Marco said...

Holy guacamole! Radar has a sister?! And they DO look alike! This is so amazing! I am so ridiculously happy. GD Titi, you're not just feeding the monsters, this is HUGE. Wow, congrats! Again wow.
Hugs & kisses... Marco

Michelle said...

That is so freaking cool.