Monday, October 31, 2011

My roach

He remains very excited to a be a cockroach for Halloween.


He was even excited about painting his face, and he insisted that HE paint his face.

And that has me thinking that maybe we could have done without the face paint!

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Happy Halloween!
Titi & Radar

I'm not sure & Contest

It's Halloween.


And even though I didn't get to go quite as overboard as I did last year, I'm still pretty excited about this evening's trick-or-treating & spook house (that being our house) events!

I think that Radar's also pretty excited (about the candy more than anything else)!

But I'm not entirely sure that everyone is as excited as we are...
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But I think I'm going to just ignore the 20 lb elephant in the room and get on with tonight's festivities!!!

I've received some pictures already, so please do send them in if you want to be considered for the Radar Love Halloween Grand Prize!!!

Lots of love,
Titi and Radar

Monday, October 24, 2011

Third time's a charm

Not that the first two times weren't.


But really - on Hannah and Radar's third visit together, it really was all charm!

Well... like 90% charm for those of you that find shoving, hitting and all other forms of fighting less than charming.

Ok, then there was the nearly non-stop screaming. They sound exactly alike when they scream. If one would scream, the other would immediately pipe in. And we're talking about high pitched, glass shattering type of stuff.

But considering it was all happy screams, I'd say that falls under the charm category.

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And there was the refusal to pose together for pictures.

It was either one...

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or the other...

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It was like they were conspiring...

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But that too all falls under charm.

In fact, I take back the part about the 10% deduction for fighting... that's what brothers and sister are supposed to do.

And I find every bit of their relationship and interaction with one another charming.

So I will stick with the title line...

3rd time's a charm!

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Lots of love,
Titi and Radar

PS - Marco... I will indeed hold another Halloween costume contest... good idea! That's an easy post!






Sunday, October 23, 2011

4 years

It's been 4 years.
I seldom cry anymore.
But I often think of the first little heart that beat under mine.
I often think of Bennett.
He changed my life.
He changed my heart.
He made me a mother for the first time.

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Good night sweet boy.
I seldom cry anymore.
But I always love you.

-Mommy

Saturday, October 22, 2011

La Cucaracha

So, I guess my idea of continuing the blog roll in October has sort of been shot to shah-la-la!


Oh well. I was hoping that I'd dive back into my Halloween passion this October and thus, would have lots more projects to tell you all about. But this October has been (and will continue to be) full of travel and that makes home based projects a little more difficult. We're heading off again next Tuesday and we don't return until the evening of Saturday, the 29th... that really just gives me Sunday, the 30th (without a babysitter or any extra hands (other than Radar's (which, as cute as they are, aren't really that helpful with complex projects))) to decorate. So I guess this year will have to be somewhat scaled back.

No matter. That doesn't mean that I have to ditch the spirit altogether. And with that idea, I have been repeatedly asking Radar what he wants to be for Halloween. He had sort of settled on Pato (a goofy looking duck character from the tv show 'Pocoyo')...

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...until a morning a couple of weeks ago when I was in the kitchen and a giant cockroach surprised me by crawling across the counter.

I responded in my usual cool, controlled manner (ie, screaming and throwing the cup full of water that I had in my hand across the kitchen, missing said roach by 5 feet)!

And Radar responded to my reaction in his usual cool, controlled manner (ie, screaming with delight at my terror scream and laughing until he gets the hiccups)!

Then it occurred to me to ask if Radar wanted to be a cockroach for Halloween.

And I think that unlike last year's costume that I poured my heart and many hours into, only to discover that Radar hated it and wouldn't wear it... I think this year's efforts and time investment will be well worth it!!!

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There's a mask to go with the costume (it's still at Grammy's) and he'll be all in brown with gloves & shoes, but I think you get the point... this is one very happy Cucaracha!!!

Lots of love,
Titi and Radar

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Bubble

I was trying to compose a blog post this weekend when Radar and I were sucked into a time warp bubble type of contraption thing! We're trying to figure a way out. I have no doubt that with the ingeniuty of our two minds, we'll find a way out by tomorrow or Saturday so that I can once again post!


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Lots of love,
Titi and Radar

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Enough said

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Tomorrow we head up to New York for our visit with Hannah & her family! Let's see if this bloggy lazy pants can get her act together and post something!

Lots of love,
Titi and Radar

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Why do it when he won't even remember?

On the weekend of September 10th, we made a quick weekend trip. On Friday I used my True Blue points on Jetblue to get two tickets to Dulles airport, connecting through Orlando. On Sunday, we used American Airlines frequent flyer miles to fly back home from BWI with a connection in Miami. The following Saturday morning it was back to the airport, American Airlines again - but this time they were two paid seats in coach that took us all the way to Spain and back, with connections on each leg. That's eight separate flights in the month of September alone.


Over the last ten years, I've done an awful lot of flying. Before Radar came along, it was still a pain to fly, but at least I had the whole routine down pat. I knew all the tricks for minimizing the hassles. It was all carry-on... quick layovers... upgrades or emergency seats... and no one ever rolled their eyes at me or sighed when they were behind me when going through security... I was fast!

That's all history now. It's hard to quantify the magnitude of 'worse-ed-ness' and 'pain-in-the-butt-ed-ness' of traveling with a small child - particularly airline travel - particularly single parent airline travel! I can no longer arrive at a destination in a 'ready-to-go' state. I am haggard, frazzled and exhausted. I always have to check in bags. I choose longer layovers. No more upgrades or emergency seats. And when people see me in the security line, they frantically move to another line to avoid being stuck behind me and when they do get stuck behind me, they most definitely roll their eyes and sigh!

Really... Radar is actually a good traveler and still, it really, really isn't easy (or fun much of the time) for me to fly with him. Yet at the age of 33 months, Radar's total flight tally is approaching 100! Sometimes after a particularly harrowing trip, I will often remind myself that Radar isn't even going to remember any of this. 100 flights. Dozens of visits to family and friends from the tip of Florida to the heart of Maine. Two trips to Spain. And he won't retain a single memory of any of it.

So why do it so much? Why not put the money aside and save it for trips he'll actually remember... like Disney when he's 5... or Spain when he's 8, etc, etc. There are some trips we can't avoid, but many, many more are planned with the full knowledge that it'll be exhausting for me and that he won't remember them.

And I guess the best answer I can come up with is that I think it's well, well worth it!

First - we all know that it isn't really a choice between traveling now or when he's a little older. I can't see a future where I'm not dragging Radar all over the place whenever an opportunity presents itself.

Second - as big of a pain as it is for me, it's even more of a joy. I guess it's like motherhood itself. To say it's easy is a lie... but it enriches everything. Radar has become my very favorite travel companion ever! I hate going on trips without him.

And most importantly - conscious memories aside... I believe that all this traveling is ingraining in Radar an ability to adapt to change, an appreciation for diversity and a verve for adventure.

So, with that theory firmly set in my belief system, we'll hop on yet another flight next Friday... this time back to New York where I'll be attending a "Single Mothers by Choice" conference and then we'll spend a long weekend with Hannah & her mommies in Long Island!

Lots of love,
Titi and Radar

PS - I read all your comments... both anonymous and identified... and I agree. I've long wanted to start really putting down on paper all the different branches and leaves of my Pazos-side (and that includes Vea, since our particular brand of Pazos was merged with a Vea) family tree and bring them to life with stories that people remember or have otherwise filtered down to us through time. Sounds like a goal... I'll give it some thought and get back to you on how you can help me accomplish it!

PSS - Although this post was all about traveling, I must say that it sure is nice to hang out at home for a couple of week... especially when home includes a year-round beautiful beach that most people would have to go through plenty of travel-hassles to get to!!!!

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This weekend at Old Fort Bay Beach